grief is love

My mothers 50 year old fern. We’ve had it my entire life. Never saw berries. This Christmas red berries appeared. There’s probably a botanical reason. And also, my mother saying hi. Both can be true.

Grief is not 
an experience to be endured.

It is a sacred experience
of love.

It is not the absence of love
you are feeling.

It is love
revealing itself
in another form.

Grief
is a signpost
that your love is potent.

That it continues on
in the formless eternity.

Notice your thoughts
as you grieve.

You miss your beloved
yet they are right here.

Closer now
than when they were alive.

Do you know this?
Do you feel this?

Grief
can be a temporary barrier
to experiencing the spirit
of your beloved
right now.

Transform grief
by feeling it fully.

Cease attaching to it,
thoughts,
memories,
stories,
resistence.

Notice
when you reminisce on the past.

Notice
shades of regret and worry.

Breathe them in.

Breathe them through.

Do not let your mind
linger there.

Linger instead
in the sensation of your heart.

Where grief and love
are two sides
of the same coin.

Where the aching
of loss
is the sensation
of love.

Grief
is not loss.

It is love.

Let us practice this.

And feel it
in our 
bodies.

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